detective work

well, maybe it wasn't really detective work.  more women's intuition and putting together some obvious signs.

i met a guy online a couple of months ago (beginning of march/end of february).  we really hit it off and had a lot in common (seemed like a lot in common).  we met and went on 4 dates before i connected the dots and realized that he is still married.

he swears that he's not hiding anything.  he said i'm wrong and that he's sorry he did something to make me feel like he's hiding something.

let's look at the clues.  see what you think...

* talks about "ex" wife A LOT.  i understand she's the mother of his 3 children and they haven't been a part for long, but it was always "my ex this and my ex that."  plus they seemed to spend a lot of time together.  he would say he did something before work and his ex was at his house.  that his ex went with his family to the museum and zoo.  i get doing things as a "family."  wayne and i did that for alex before he remarried (now it's "not allowed").  but, for her to be hanging out at his house before he went to work (he works nights).  just seemed strange.

* we were out to lunch one saturday.  he got a text from his oldest daughter that she was at his house.  he said she asked if she could do something or another (that part isn't important).  this daughter is 11.  what was she doing there alone if she doesn't live there?  i asked how far his ex lives from him.  he said 10 miles.  so, how did his daughter get there by herself?  why would her mom drop her off there alone?

this is the biggest clue:  i realized that EVERY TIME i called him, he never answered.  it always went to voicemail.  then he would call me back, but he would never be at home.  he would be "on his way to the store," "going to buy a tire," "walking the dog," "on his way to work".  we never talked when he was at home.  he always wanted to text.

so blog readers--weigh in.  is this guy a lying bastard or am i overly paranoid?